This past weekend I went out for Greek life recruitment at my college. It was an amazing experience and I would do it all over again in a heartbeat. But what I realized the most during this process is how important it is to be you and stay true to yourself, no matter how corny and cliché that may sound.
Throughout the weekend, I was brought into rooms filled with girls, most of which I had never met before. I made small talk and found people who I clicked with, and who I really felt comfortable with. When I walked into a room and found someone I could completely be myself and let my guard down around, it made me realize how important it is to just be you.
They say that when you’re going out for a sorority you’re supposed to go with the chapter that you feel most at home with and that you’ll know where you belong. When I would talk to different girls, I asked them how they knew their sorority was the one for them. They all answered that the sorority for you is the one that you feel like you don’t have to try to be someone else in.
That’s what made me realize how important it is to be myself. I ended up meeting girls just like me and girls I could see myself being future sorority sisters with. And while Greek life isn’t for everyone, the fact of being who you are and not changing to fit in still stands true. All of your quirks and imperfections make you who you are in the best way, and that is something you should never take for granted. It’s old, catchy, and a little bit overplayed, but Bruno Mars says it best: you’re amazing just the way you are.
Schedule Breakdown: Recruitment Weekend and Greek Life
At my university, spring recruitment is split into three days over a single weekend. We are split into smaller groups of around 30 girls to make the overall process easier. On the first day, a Friday, we visited six rooms. Each room represented the six different sororities on my campus and I visited each for 30 minutes. I was paired with a girl and learned more about her as she learned more about me, watched a video on their organization, and talked to more girls in order to get a feel for who I felt most comfortable with. At the end of the day, I voted for my top four sororities and my bottom two in ranking order. Which sorority you get called back to is based on mutual selection – you have to want to spend more time with them, and they have to also want to spend more time with you.
The second day you could be called back to a maximum of four rooms. I received my call that morning and was called back to my top four. This time, I was in each room for a total of 45 minutes. I talked with more girls in each sorority and also watched a video on their philanthropy. At the end of the day I picked my top two rooms and ranked my bottom two.
On the final day I went to two rooms. These rooms were an hour each and really allowed me to get to know each sorority. They each showed me a traditional ceremony that they do in order for us to feel more at home and part of the sorority. I had a more intimate one-on-one conversation with a girl who chose to talk to me. This day really allowed me to know I was making the right decision. At the end of this day I had to rank the two sororities. Then on Monday at 10PM, my bid was revealed and I found out which sorority I was in.
Being in a sorority gives you sisters and lifelong friends. Not only does they give you close relationships with people who have the same interests and mindsets as you, but they allow you to really work towards helping a good cause. Choosing a sorority that has a philanthropy that you believe in and support is also something that comes with Greek life. The community service and bonds that you form along with the involvement in campus that comes with being in a sorority is something that truly allows you to make your college experience a memorable one.
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