The Benefit of Self Honesty: Get What You Want

Have you ever heard the phrase, “If you are honest about what you want, the universe has a way of giving it to you”? I have always liked that concept because I do think it is possible to get what you want. It is just important not to lose the message behind the quote. When being honest with yourself, you need to figure out what is most important to you and what you are willing to do to get it.

The point of this exercise is not for wish fulfillment; the point is to figure out what you want to do so that you can work towards it. In other words, you cannot honestly want to win the lottery but still expect it to happen if you never buy a ticket. You need to find a goal that you are willing to commit to.

Try to think about what you want in all areas of your life, including your career, your living situation, and your free time. If you are not getting what you want out of life, you can do something to improve it. If you don’t like your job, think of what job you want to have long term. If you’re not at that organization, start applying elsewhere. In this situation, honesty is about finding your priorities. Do you want to travel all the time or do you want to save money to buy a car? Depending on your financial situation, you can probably only do one at a time. That is why you have to be honest with yourself about your long and short term goals. It doesn’t mean that you will never get a chance to do everything that you are interested in. You are simply putting the most important things in your life at the top of your list.

This self honesty is actually clarity. It keeps you from wasting time in your dead end job or wasting time period. It helps you remove the obstacles in your life because you’re finally aware what your obstacles are. Once that is done, there is really nothing standing in your way.

So, really think about where you are now. Think about what you want one, five, or even ten or more years in the future. How do you get to that place? What sacrifices do you make to get there? That is your next challenge.

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